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Roles In The Family As In The Church
To understand how the family has to function in the order and will of God we have to go back to the beginning. Without the fundamental basis nothing can be either understood properly or built properly. First of all we must say that the Christian family designed by God is a family which has as its center, or at least should have, the husband-father.
This is the ideal and main channel of authority chosen by God. We do understand as we have previously mentioned that if the situation demands it, such as in cases of widows see in this case 1 TIMOTHY 5:11-16, divorced women and single mothers, that this responsibility falls upon them; however, these being the exceptions rather than the rule. Even single Christian woman with children, as the young widows, should seek to find a husband absolutely in the Lord, however.
Everything, however, began in the order of creation. God created Adam, man was created first and to him was given the primary authority and to whom were given the primary and very important responsibilities.
Genesis 2:7-8 And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. 8 The LORD God planted a garden eastward in Eden, and there He put the man whom He had formed.
1 Timothy 2:13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve.
Genesis 2:15-18 Then the LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it. 16 And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; 17 but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.” 18 And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
To have been created first for Adam meant to have authority, but with that authority received the first responsibilities and this means that with more authority come more responsibilities.
We see that to Adam were given some great and specific responsibilities in the beginning of his creation.
The first one was that of working in the garden where God placed him and to keep it , in other words to take care of it. The primary roles of a man therefore are to provide and take care as well as protect.
The second responsibility was that not only he would obey God’s command to not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil but that he would also instruct Eve of this, Eve who was created after this episode. It is evident from the chronology of the text that Eve was not instructed about this directly by God, but Adam was. This means that the responsibility of the instruction and observance of this commandment fell upon Adam. It was his responsibility to teach this commandment to Eve and then to make sure that he would later protect Eve from the temptation and the danger the devil caused her. Unfortunately, we know the result of the God-given responsibilities that Adam neglected to put into practice.
Besides Adam’s failure to keep his responsibilities, upon which we will come back later, we see that the primary responsibilities given to Adam were to provide through work, to be a care-taker and to protect that of which God had made him responsible. These were then the God-given responsibilities God gave him to keep toward his wife and to be the teacher of what God had commanded.
By this we understand also that the one who has the responsibility to teach is held to a greater standard of obedience and life. This is confirmed by Scripture in James 3:1 My brethren, let not many of you become teachers, knowing that we shall receive a stricter judgment.
So teaching is an awesome responsibility a person receives from God.
Genesis 3:6 So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate.
It is evident that God gives the responsibility to Adam for Eve’s disobedience, because it was his passivity in enforcing the God-given instructions and the lack of protection toward his wife’s well being, upon which he was responsible and therefore disobeying God in all his given responsibilities, he sinned. For these reasons Adam has received upon himself the responsibility for the consequences of sin and by consequence passed them upon the entire human race. However, God does give to Eve her due responsibility and consequence of sin, as Paul says in
1 Timothy 2:14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.
Before God both are guilty of having disobeyed God; but Adam, because of his position of authority and therefore having the greater responsibilities, is designated the official carrier of sin and death in the human race. Because of the authority and responsibilities given him by God, Adam was the head of Eve, also because she came from him, she was created out of Adam, being the head of the wife Adam also was counted as the head of the whole human race. When Eve was tempted and fell into transgression, to Adam was given the responsibility of their sin, Eve retaining hers, however.
Romans 5:12 Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned
Romans 5:19 For as by one man’s disobedience many were made sinners, so also by one Man’s obedience many will be made righteous.
1 Corinthians 15:22 For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ all shall be made alive.
Even with the consequences of their sinful nature, Adam and Eve were obligated by God to retain their roles given to them by Him. The fight for the supremacy of these roles from that day forward would have become increasingly bitter and cruel because in the sinful nature. These roles are no longer lived in goodness, purity and submission to God’s will, but they have become corrupted and disfigured by the depravity of sin and have become roles which man and woman war against each other to establish, they become a war because man and woman try to obtain the same role of authority declining the responsibilities the roles require. Let’s take a look at how this battle began and how it’s played out.
Genesis 3:16-19 To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.” 17 Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’: “Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life. 18 Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, And you shall eat the herb of the field. 19 In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread Till you return to the ground, For out of it you were taken; For dust you are, And to dust you shall return.”
I would like to focus upon the second part of verse 16 and the first part of verse 17; here the LORD God tells Eve that her desire will be for her husband, this does not mean that the desires in question are of sexual nature or good intentions. In this verse, since God is speaking of consequences of sin ,there is nothing that is good about what God pronounces. What then does Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you mean?
If we go see the words used here and the words used in Genesis 4 when the LORD speaks to Cain before he killed his brother, God is warning him about the condition of his heart and the sin he was contemplating. We see that the same exact phraseology and words are used as in Genesis 3:16, that are used to describe what sin was doing against Cain. We understand that in Hebrew, in the original text, these words are purposefully chosen to transmit a certain understanding to what these two passages are speaking of and the parallelism of the meaning in both passages.
Genesis 4:7 If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”
Here we understand as this is the only place the same parallelism and language of this kind is used in Scripture, that with the same kind of desire, in other words the desire sin has to dominate Cain, so will the woman desire to dominate the man, this is a sinful desire. Such as Cain should have dominated, with force subduing sin, but sin instead dominated and subdued Cain, so will man dominate with harshness and cruelty trying to make the woman submit to him to retain his role. Great battle, both losers.
We need to understand, however, that this is not the original will of God , this is the result and consequence of sinful human nature. From this time in Genesis 3 is born the ancient struggle between men and women for positions of authority, the constant desire of the woman to usurp and have authority over the man in every sphere of life and the constant arrogance and cruel dictatorial dominion that man has toward woman.
This sinful abusive behavior of man is what Satan used as a launching pad to incite all the more the sinful desire of woman and convince all the more women to free themselves from under the yoke of the slavery of the home and family. Satan is the master of manipulation of sinful human behavior. So he was able to use the sinful and unjust behavior of man toward women to convince them that work, career and equality with man, or better yet to arrive to achieve dominion on man. This is exactly what God meant when He told Eve that her desires would be toward the position and role of man and that this would have been the panacea, the medicine, the remedy that would have healed all the woman’s problems. Instead the medicine that heals all the sickness for woman is to return to the role that God has established for her and for man to return to the role God established for him. The woman to be in submission to her husband in all things, all things that are good and in accord with the law of God, and that she respect her husband and that the husband love her as Christ loves the church, sacrificing himself for her and taking care of her in everything and for all.
In the life of the non-believers this is and will be a bitter and hard battle, but in the life of the believers it should not be a fierce battle as it is for the unbelievers. The believer is brought back spiritually to the condition of regeneration and all believers when submitted to God’s word and will should assume the roles and positions that God has established and in those roles and positions submitted to God and to one another in love we take the positions and roles that God had established for mankind before the fall into sin. Unfortunately, all too often this war continues in the life of the believing husband and wife and in the church government as well.
There is another problem with the behavior and the disobedience of Adam that made him even more responsible before God, that while it was the woman who listened and fell into the temptation of the devil, it was Adam who obeyed the voice of his wife instead of God’s.
Genesis 3:17 Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’:
Here we must remember the order in which God had organized everything, and now we can see how that order was turned upside down.
Let’s take a look at this order, the LORD had commanded Adam not to eat from the tree which action would have given him the knowledge of good and evil GENESIS 2:16-17.. In fact, to Adam, He says I commanded you, referring the commandment to him, when it was originally given to him, Adam.
We need to understand this to understand the order of the authority and responsibilities of the husband and the wife. Adam is He who, although Scripture does not specifically mention it, was assigned by God to have the responsibility to teach this commandment to Eve. In submission Eve should have obeyed God through Adam’s instruction. Eve should have trusted Adam and should have submitted to that which Adam had taught her therefore obeying God’s commandment. We understand by this also that one of the primary roles of teaching the word of God in the family belongs to the husband, the man. As we have mentioned in the beginning of this section sometimes this is not possible because of some extreme circumstances, but it should be the norm and it is confirmed by the Scripture of the NT.
1 Timothy 2:11-12 Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. 12 And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.
1 Corinthians 14:34-35 Let your women keep silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak; but they are to be submissive, as the law also says. 35 And if they want to learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is shameful for women to speak in church.
Instead we know the result, Eve tempted by the devil disobeyed the commandment of God taught her by Adam and so Eve got out from being under the authority and protection of Adam, which he had received by God, and she disobeyed her husband also not only God. When anyone does not submit to the spiritual authorities God places upon us, who are submitted to God themselves, and we come out from under those authorities and disobey them when they exhort us to obey and live by God’s word they teach us, we do not disobey only men but also God and we become vulnerable to the devil’s temptations all the more. I repeat under the authority that are themselves under submission to the word of God.
Eve came out from under the authority and therefore the protection of her husband. However, Adam was guilty of several things himself, let’s examine them:
Adam was together with Eve at the moment of temptation, Adam failed to protect Eve and to take her away from the temptation or at the very least to warn her not to disobey God. This is the principle of EZEKIEL 33:1-6, that’s another reason why Adam is guilty and responsible of that sin.
Adam failed because he abdicated his God-given authority and became passive, he let Eve do whatever she desired and obeyed the voice of Eve instead of the word of the LORD. May we meditate husbands, meditate about being passive and to whom do we give heed?
So sin originated from Satan and Eve disobeyed, God first and Adam secondly, she obeyed the devil. Adam, on his part, listened to his wife, he obeyed her and consequently obeyed the devil and in the end both disobeyed God. However, it is plain to see that all the channels of spiritual authority were violated in every way and consequently God’s authority and word were violated.
For all this God gave the greater responsibility of disobedience to Adam, because of the role of authority God gave him. Obviously, the responsibility and consequences were distributed justly to all parties involved, the devil, Eve and Adam. God does not justify rebellion and anyone’s guilt, if not through faith in Jesus Christ and repentance of sin that faith produces.
Scripture gives the responsibilities and consequences of sin of which all mankind is responsible to Adam, that is why we must understand that with more authority the responsibilities increase.
Since Adam listened to the voice of his wife instead of God’s, it was he, Adam, who committed the sin of disobedience and rebellion; however he disobeyed God, let’s look at the way how he did it. Adam did not fall into temptation and sinned by being directly tempted by the devil, he rebelled against God by listening to what Eve told him to do. For this reason in the sinful nature of the human being there is this battle for the supremacy of authority in the relationship between man and woman, between husband and wife. This battle is the one delineated in Genesis 3:16b your desires will be toward your husband,and he will rule over you.
In God’s order, however, in other words in the regenerated man and woman in Christ, in the born-again couple, the order of authority and responsibility as well as submission has to return its original state that God had established before the fall into sin and the total corruption and depravity of the human being.
Having seen therefore, why this battle over the authority and roles exists, now we can better understand Scripture when it teaches us that in the family, as well as in the church in the same way and reason, there are roles and positions of spiritual authority and responsibility well defined and that the violation of these roles, positions and responsibilities are, in fact, a violation of the order and design of God in the family and the church.
These violations are serious and not to be taken lightly as they are sin and rebellion, sin and rebellion that go back to the origin of the cause of our sinful nature and state. If we do not want to find ourselves disobeying God and sinning against Him it is good to comprehend and obey His word as men and women, if we want to enjoy the power and favor of God in the family and church.
We see then that the order and the authority and responsibilities of the Christian family is to be a reflection of the church’s. Here we will spend some time to examine the parallels between church and family since the word of God shows us them and puts them in evidence in several passages and in several different ways.
Ephesians 5:21-33 submitting to one another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
The very first responsibility given is to submit to one another in the fear of God. This means to submit completely to Christ and His word, His commandments, so we will submit to one another as it is prescribed by God. Paul then gives us the practical rundown giving us also a lesson on the authority and responsibilities of husband and wife.
The wife has to be submitted to the husband in the same way a woman has to be submitted to the Lord. Hmmm….This indicates a spirit of obedience and humility. This is confirmed as well in verse 24 of the passage where it says Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Here we see God is directing the wives to be submitted to their husbands in everything, everything that is not in violation of God’s word. We all have the primary responsibility to submit to the word of God, and to others when they do not request we should do anything against God’s word. This is made clear in Scripture for example in
Acts 5:26-29 Then the captain went with the officers and brought them without violence, for they feared the people, lest they should be stoned. 27 And when they had brought them, they set them before the council. And the high priest asked them, 28 saying, “Did we not strictly command you not to teach in this name? And look, you have filled Jerusalem with your doctrine, and intend to bring this Man’s blood on us!” 29 But Peter and the other apostles answered and said: “We ought to obey God rather than men.
The word of God commands us to submit and obey spiritual and earthly authorities ROMANS 13:1-7 and 1 PETER 2:13-20 , but it has to be evident that when these are not under authority and submission to God and His word and they order us to do or live contrary to the will and word of God these DO NOT have to be obeyed, GOD AND HIS WORD HAS TO BE OBEYED.
This is true when we speak of the submission and obedience of the wife to the husband. The husband has to be under the submission of Christ and His word, so that if this is the case the wife should never have the problem of submitting and obeying what the husband says and it should not be ever cause of contention, if there is then it is clear that there is a rebellious spirit in her, which God condemns as sin. Let us remember in all that does not go against God’s word, the wife is to be submitted to the husband even if the husband is not walking with God
1 PETER 3:1-6.
This passage in Ephesians, in addition, teaches that the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. This delineates perfectly the channel of authority assigned by God in regard to authority and responsibility. This is further taught us in
1 Corinthians 11:3 I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ,the head of the woman is man and the head of Christ is God.
So the channel of spiritual authority is the following: God the Father is the head of Christ and Christ is the head of the church in which He is the head of man and woman both, man who after Christ, however, is the head of the woman. Man is submitted to Christ but the woman first to Christ then to the man.
A further teaching in regard to this subject is given to us in a different form by Paul in 1 TIMOTHY 2:11-12 and it is a passage upon which we will come back as well as many others such as 1 Corinthians 11, when we will study of the various responsibilities of the wife and woman.
As we have said before with more authority come more responsibilities. The wife and woman has to submit to the husband and to the male authorities in the offices of the church. The woman retains, therefore, a role of secondary authority (not importance) in the church and family. This does not mean that their value, the human and spiritual value is secondary, it is equal before God. So both man and woman are equally precious to God and have the same blessings in regard to salvation and favor of God.
Galatians 3:26-29 For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. 27 For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. 28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. 29 And if you are Christ’s, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.
Many use this passage erroneously and out of context to justify female pastors and teachers in the church. First of all as we see clearly, the context is speaking of the spiritual equality of every person in salvation and in the dignity of life as well as inheritance in the Kingdom of God. This fact is further confirmed in another passage relative to the submission of the woman to man and the responsibility of each person found in
1 Peter 3:1-7 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward–arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel– 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
It is obvious of what these passages are talking about, in other words, before God man and woman, the husband and the wife are humanly and spiritually equal as far as their position of sanctity of life, salvation and spiritual inheritance. Theyare not, however, equal in role and position of authority. It is evident they are heirs together of the grace of life as Peter explains, they are equal in that. It has been obviously clear from the word of God, not my opinion, but God’s of the position of submission, respect and final obedience to the husband and to those who hold the offices of the church which should be presided by men and never women.
Now folks, if you do not like this I am sorry; however, do not get upset at me asI am teaching what the word of God says, this is how God wants it to be. As I have already said several times within different sections of this web-site, the Bible cannot be made to submit to culture and society, which means that the order with which God wants things to be cannot be changed in the church because society and culture change. This is an order that God has established in the beginning of creation and it is unchangeable such as He is. We know that the world, the culture and society obey Satan’s ways, does this mean the church must also? Does the church have to adopt what culture and society demands? I do not think so. Society wants to tolerate and accept homosexuality as a normal way of life, does the church have to accept and tolerate what God calls an abomination? No! So then this issue as well does not have to be viewed in light of culture and society but in the light of the unchanging word of God.
However, both the husband,, as well as the church officials must respect the person and opinions of the wives and women as well as the advice when they are given in the proper way and in agreement with God’s word. However, even if the advice and opinions are taken into consideration, if the final decision is different from the opinion and advice given by the woman or wife, they must respect and submit to the final authority and decision which is the husband’s or the church officials. It is wise and good, however, for the church and the husband to weigh and consider carefully and seriously the opinions and advice of the wives and women -may discernment, prayer and wisdom be used in considering them. Decisions cannot be made based upon pride or a superiority attitude nor upon the fact that the final decision power resides with the male figure. Let us men remember that we all are heirs together of the grace of God and there should be a one-mindedness of what is good and biblical both for the family and for the church.
So it is crystal clear in the word of God that the wife and the woman, only for position of role, are not authorized in the church to retain positions and offices of authority and even in the family this hierarchical position of authority has to be respected. What does God say in addition to all this?
Let’s examine the reasons that are tied to much of what we have studied thus far, because it is extremely important to understand the logic and the instructions we find in the word of God. This is the base for the order in which both the family and the church has to operate. Without the proper understanding of these fundamental things there cannot be order and growth in the family and in the church.
1 Timothy 2:8-15 is one of the passages which are connected with the passage that we have been reviewing, namely
Ephesians 5:21-24 submitting to one another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
1 Timothy 2:8-15 I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; 9 in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10 but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. 11 Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. 12 And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. 15 Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.
Here we would enter into the full subject of the responsibilities of the woman/wife so I would like to postpone this lesson to the appropriate section we will later study. For now I would remain in the subject or context is the submission to the channels of spiritual authority established by God, what are they and why.
Woman’s attitude of submission must continue in their effort to learn things of spiritual nature, see verse 11-12, Paul commands with Apostolic authority Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.
It is evident that the spiritual teaching and authority that certain positions and roles have is prohibited to the woman in the church and by consequence even in the family, although in the family we will see the woman holds responsibilities and a measure of authority in teaching and training the children.
Verse 12 is given as a commandment of Apostolic authority because of the sinful nature of people. Paul realizes that God had established an order in the beginning and he also realizes that in GENESIS 3:16, God decreed that the woman would have had her desires to usurp and have dominion over her husband and the woman over man in general. It is because of all this that Paul explains why he gives this Apostolic commandment.
Verses 13-14 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.
Paul is explaining us that Adam is the head of Eve because even in the order of creation he was chosen by God to be in the position of authority even if Adam was given the fault and responsibility for the sin, the consequences of his missed responsibilities given him by God. Still Paul says that it was not Adam who fell in the temptation of Satan and in transgression, this demonstrates that it was Eve was seduced by Satan and therefore it is the woman who demonstrates a greater weakness to certain direct temptations of the devil and demonstrates that women are not predisposed to retain position of authority which by divine decree belong to man.
Yes, woman is not only physically weaker but also obviously has some weaker tendencies regarding certain types of temptations, these and the specific order of creation set by God, such that because of these she is divinely excluded to retain positions of authority and responsibility in the church and usually in the family.
In Verse 15 Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.
Paul describes the woman’s responsibilities and her primary role, after being wife is being mother, because Eve means “she who gives life”. Paul describes the responsibilities of the life of the woman in regard to the family and the church. The woman will provide being the procreator of potential disciples for the church by physically bearing children, while the man in concert with the Holy Spirit will have the primary responsibility of forming disciples from the children the woman bears. The woman will partner with the husband to teach and train the children in the things of God; however, let us remember that the primary responsibility remains the father’s .
Up to now we have established the roles and channels of authority and their order as well as what the Bible calls submission. Woman’s submission does not have to be understood as a demerit, on the other hand it has to be understood as an act of devotion to God because it is He who requests this behavior on the part of the woman. Submission then is not merely an act devoted to the husband or to an office and authority of the church but it is first of all to God. Offering ourselves as living sacrifices to God first will allow us to submit to whom we must first of all because we are submitted to God.
Having established these facts we must now turn our attention upon the detailed responsibilities of the various roles God has established. Continuing in the passage of Ephesians 5 we have been examining, we will understand that in the family the husband is the head and there is an order of submission for the wife. We will examine next the responsibilities of the man and husband.